What if there’s regret either way?
When we face big decisions in life, about relationships, career, family, or the direction we want to take, there’s often a quiet (or loud) hope that we can find the “right” answer. The one path that will protect us from regret, loss, or discomfort. The brain is a predictability machine that craves certainty and seeks knowledge.
But life doesn’t always offer guarantees or clarity. Sometimes, we have to come to accept that either choice may carry its own version of grief or uncertainty. Either choice comes with a cost. That realization can feel like a kind of heartbreak, but it can also feel like an invitation.
An invitation to shift from trying to outsmart regret…
To release our need to get the perfect outcome...
To learning how to lean into grace and compassion no matter the situation.
When we try to control every outcome, we live in a scarcity mindset: one that fixates on risk, loss, and the worst-case scenario. It keeps us planning for an imagined future, while holding back from living in the present and listening to our deepest desires.
Discomfort doesn’t always mean something is wrong or that it's not the right choice. Ever heard of growing pains? Sometimes, discomfort is a sign we’re growing.
Growing through discomfort means making peace with what’s outside of our control, while anchoring into what's within our reach: our inner resources and resilience, our support systems, our safety nets, our capacity to choose again.
The more we practice trusting ourselves to navigate what arises, the more we begin to live from a place of abundance… not because the path is clear, but because we’ve remembered we are not powerless. We have the ability to do hard things.
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You don’t need perfect certainty to move toward a meaningful life. You only need enough self-trust to take the next step.
And if you don’t fully trust yourself yet… that’s okay too.
Start with a willingness to be curious.
Start with one brave step and build from there.
